In most cases, relationships break down for a reason. While this might not be true in 100% of cases, you’ll find that nine times out of ten, there’s a REALLY good reason why one of you decided to break it off. Often, getting back with that person will just cause the same problems all over again – people rarely change. Or do they?
THINGS WILL BE DIFFERENT THIS TIME
It’s easy to say that you’ll move past whatever went wrong, but unfortunately research says otherwise. People end up focusing on all the negative stuff from before, leaving no room for positives at all! You better start polishing your Tinder profile, as you’re most likely not going to like dating your ex again as much as you imagined.
YOU CAN’T DO BETTER
Going back to an ex for the sole reason that they are the best you can get is flawed logic. You’re a bombshell, and you’re wasting your amazigness on someone you barely like. Scratch that, barely tolerate! Remember, there was a reason you guys ended things!
YOUR EX WILL BE TOTALLY DIFFERENT!
Let’s be real – people don’t change all that often. If he or she has done some major work on improving themselves, that’s great! But more often than not, they won’t have. Worst of all? People often change when they want to get something out of others.
NOBODY KNOWS YOU BETTER THAN THEY DO
Actually, this one may well be true. But that means they know you for better or for worse… and sometimes they won’t be able to shake the things they don’t like about you!
YOU HAVE NO TIME TO DATE
Okay, that’s just silly. Getting back with the wrong girl or guy just because you can’t bear the thought of searching for someone new is ridiculous! Enjoy the time spent dating, instead!
YOU’RE FRIENDS, SO WHY NOT MORE?
Unfortunately, it’s time to move on. If someone has hurt you or if the relationship didn’t work out, you’re usually wasting your time hoping that you might be more again. If your ex is an excellent friend, keep them as a friend and nothing else!
A SLIP UP COULD BE PERMANENT
Uh-oh! Does sex with an ex sound familiar to you? If you’re doing it in the hopes of getting back together, stop dreaming. That’s rarely how it goes, and it probably just wouldn’t work!
THEY’RE NOT A BAD PERSON
So maybe you didn’t split up because one of you did something wrong, and perhaps things just naturally reached an end? That doesn’t mean you were right together. Realizing this instead of dwelling on the past will help you move on. It’s time to say bye, bye, baby!
THEY’RE LOOKING OUT FOR YOU
Broken up with a partner and now they can’t stop texting you? On the surface it looks sweet and concerned, and you’re flattered they won’t forget you, right? Sadly, they’re probably checking up on you, and using this as a way of control.
MAYBE THINGS WEREN’T SO BAD
With time, we often forget a lot of things that people did to hurt us. We even start to think that maybe we were wrong to end it, or we blame ourselves. Whoah! Hold your horses, Missy (or mister!) Often, it was that bad! You’re not exaggerating… so do you really want to go back there?! That’s a Throw Back Thursday no one wants to see!