They call jealousy the slow poison, because it can affect your relationship in a thousand tiny little ways. Thankfully, once you know what to look out for, you can stop these feelings in their tracks, and make your relationship healthier than ever before.
A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
Jealousy isn’t just bad for your relationship, it’s bad for your body too! When we are sad, angry or jealous, our bodies are flooded with negative chemicals. So smiling is basically medicine, and nothing makes us smile more than a harmonious relationship with our significant others.
Roald Dahl once said that if you’re kind, you will look lovely no matter how ugly you are. The opposite is true too, if you’re constantly harboring ugly thoughts, it’ll show in your face no matter how pretty you might be! Stop frowning and wondering if your boo is cheating or hanging out too much with their friends.
FEEDING THE MONSTER
Acting jealous might feel good, but it can actually make all your worst fears come true! Focusing on all the bad things that could happen instead of giving your attention to your partner is a surefire way to bring those things about.
Being scared of losing your partner can easily turn into obsession – which is baaaad bad bad for the both of you. If you catch yourself Facebook-stalking them or freaking out if they don’t return a text message, it might be time to re-evaluate. No one wants to hang out with Meanie, the green monster!
ME, MYSELF AND I
Jealousy might feel like it stems from love, but it’s actually much closer to selfishness. When you’re jealous, you’re actually angry because you think someone should belong to you, which is the most selfish thing of all!
A RACE AGAINST TIME
The more time you waste on jealous thoughts, the more time you end up losing to obsession. That leaves you with no time to make amends or show your partner how much they mean to you – it’s a vicious, petty little cycle!
A BATTLE OF WILLS
Not only does jealousy start to control you, but it can make you want to control your partner. It can be tempting to restrict their behavior to keep them close, but you will only end up pushing them further away.
MINE, ALL MINE!
Obsession has its own dangers too; it can turn into possessiveness in the blink of an eye. This makes it clear to your partner that you do not trust them, which is sure to backfire. So don’t go Glenn Close on him yet!
YOU’RE ONLY HURTING YOURSELF
Obsessing over jealous thoughts isn’t just dangerous, it’s also exhausting AF. Letting go won’t just make your relationship healthier, it will free you too.
THE STRAW THAT BREAKS THE CAMEL’S BACK
Love cannot thrive when jealousy lives in the background, and one jealous act can ruin it all. However, extending understanding, trust and compassion can help you get things back on track.