Are you the glass-half-empty type of person or are you always spotting silver linings? Perspective is everything. Your overall worldview will probably determine the type of life you want to lead. However, there are many certain little things we do on a daily basis—probably without noticing—that may go against a happy way of living. Here are a few ways to stop making your life harder than it has to be and to cut yourself some slack.
1. DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL
If your friend forgot to text you back, it doesn’t mean they hate you. There are a million reasons to feel offended out there, but the key to a happy life might be to start disregarding them and to stop feeling like the world is against you. Sometimes people forget, and it’s totally normal.
2. LIFE IS NOT A MOVIE
Yes, they might look similar, but life doesn’t really unfold like in movies. Characters come and go from your life unexpectedly, plots twist like you’ve never imagined, and not everything revolves around you. Once you accept that, you’ll be good to roll.
3. IT’S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD
The apocalypse is just a myth—at least for now. No, that mole is not cancer, and no, those suspicious men just standing there are not planning to kill you. Thinking positively will scare off negativity.
4. CONTROL YOUR EXPECTATIONS
The people in your life can’t read your mind. Be clear about what you expect from them and fill them in; it’s OK to communicate those things. Stop expecting everyone to think like you or act as you would: this will only breed unhappiness.
5. DON’T JUST WAIT FOR SIGNS
Some people base their decisions solely on certain signs life gives them. It’s OK to have a little faith here and there, but don’t just let fate determine your life. You’ll probably wait longer than you should to move forward.
6. TAKE MORE RISKS
Push yourself out of your comfort zone every once in a while. Don’t be scared to do something completely new and unknown, good things can come out of it—you will thank us later. So shake things up!
7. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
We are all like apples and oranges. Sobbing about your neighbor’s most impressive Christmas lights arrangement won’t get you an impressive Christmas lights arrangement. Embrace your life choices and what you get from them. After all, Theodore Roosevelt was right: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” And most importantly, if you don’t like something about yourself, find the motivation to change it and be all that you want to be. You have the right to change your mind, tastes, likes, and your own self.
8. TREAT YOUR TIME LIKE GOLD
We all protect our material things from thieves, but our time might be even more precious than gold. Steer away from toxic people who might be stealing your time without you noticing. Devote your time to those who really deserve and appreciate it.
9. LET IT GO
Life is hard—no brainer. We lose friends, fights, or jobs as we go; but overspending time dwelling on those loses won’t bring closure any time soon. Embrace things as they come and learn to accept them.
10. GIVE BACK
Sometimes we only focus on receiving things from others. But small gestures you give out will actually make you happier than you ever imagined. Compliment your coworker’s outfit, motivate a friend, call your parents. People who give back are happy people.