Some people are born with the necessity to please others all the time. Be it because they’re insecure or because they’re always looking for approval, people-pleasers usually put themselves last because they devote all their time to others. While being generous is great, all people-pleasers should stop doing the following things before it’s too late and they’re left exposed, depressed, and disappointed in the world.
LET IT GO
People-pleasers find it hard to let go of toxic relationships in fear of hurting people’s feelings. Choose who you’re around because negative people suck the life out of you.
DON’T APOLOGIZE SO MUCH
It’s great to admit you’ve made a mistake and apologize for something; just don’t do it all the time and for any reason. Because you find it hard to let people down, you tend to shift all blame to you. And it should stop.
STRONGER THAN YESTERDAY
Some people believe that people-pleasers are weak because they put a lot of effort on making others feel well. Don’t let those negative opinions make you feel bad! In order to be stronger than yesterday, you have to plan your future carefully, so start hanging out with the right people, and practice saying no. Say it with me! No, no, no, no, no!
Saying “yes” to everything you’re asked to do is probably your thing because, well, you like to please them all. You will go to work sick or assist that party even though you feel tired, when you should be listening to yourself instead.
THE TIME OF YOUR LIFE
People-pleasers usually don’t make any time for themselves to do things they really care about. Stop spending your free afternoon on helping your friend with that assignment or taking your in-laws to the airport. Start living your time.
WHATEVER IT TAKES
That’s what people-pleasers do all the time. Whatever it takes for their friends to be happy or for their family to be satisfied. However, this might get them accustomed to that and you’ll feel obliged to do things you don’t want way too often.
Stop doing things just so that people won’t disagree with you. Focus on what you really want and put yourself first in order to achieve them.
ALL BY YOURSELF
People-pleasers would much rather hurt themselves than risk hurting anyone they love. Make decisions based on what you feel or want; don’t always consider what others might think before doing something.
BREAK UP FOR GOOD
People-pleasers tend to hold on to past relationships simply because they don’t want to disappoint them or cause them pain. That would only make you feel worse and you won’t be able to move on properly.
DON’T OVERTHINK IT
Before making a decision, you over-analyze every possible scenario and ask a lot of people for advice. This is just too exhausting and you should just trust your instincts and feelings a bit more often.