Ghosting. The act of suddenly stopping all communication with someone you’re dating to hint you don’t wish to go out with them anymore. Both women or men can do it, and it can be the most cowardly way to end it with your partner. Here are some hints you should be aware of to stop a potential ghoster in your life and walk out first without getting hurt.
BREVITY IS THE SOURCE OF GHOSTING
We all know guys aren’t really big talkers, especially via text. But if he puts very little effort in his virtual replies, chances are he will devote the same energy to the relationship itself. Watch out for very brief replies and emoji-only conversations.
PARTY OF THREE
Or four. If he’s brought up the idea of seeing other people, he might not think you’re exclusive and won’t put a lot into the relationship. If he’s not just a casual relationship to you, walk out if he even suggests this whole open-relationship idea, unless that’s exactly what you’re going for. If you are, lay down some boundaries and get to an agreement you’re both comfortable with.
WHERE IS THIS GOING?
That’s probably the scariest question you can ask a potential ghoster. If your man is in it for the long run, he won’t mind talking about the next steps in your relationship.
OFF THE BEATEN DATE
If your guy constantly takes you to random restaurants in the middle of nowhere, run. If he avoids being seen with you in popular places, he’s probably either hiding something or isn’t sure he wants to commit with you—sorry to break it to you, hun.
DISAPPEARING LIKE A GHOST
If he goes MIA for long periods of time without even telling you where he is or when you’re seeing him again, he probably doesn’t respect your relationship as he should. Is that who you really want in your life?
NETFLIX AND CHILL
This sounds like a romantic plan; but if this repeats every time you get together, it might mean you’re only his sex buddy. These kinds of agreements are fun but don’t usually end up in a serious relationship like they do in movies.
WALK OF SHAME
Pay attention to how your man behaves right after sex. If all he wants to do is get up, get dressed and leave faster than the Flash, he probably doesn’t want anything serious. A breakfast-in-bed type of man will most likely not be a ghoster.
Bae? Hun? Sweetie pie? If he’s calling you those names way too soon into the relationship, it doesn’t really mean he’s super sweet. He might not really care about remembering your name. Plus, he’s taking the value off those terms by calling them so early!
If he always shows up late to your date or ditches you last minute, he probably doesn’t respect your relationship. You deserve a person who wishes to meet you and respects your time. Don’t settle for less.
THE CIRCLE OF TRUST
If you’ve been dating for a few months now and you still haven’t met his friends or parents, you probably never will. He might see you as a temporary partner and might end up ghosting you earlier than you imagine.