For most people, cheating is a deal-breaker and the quickest way to end a relationship. However, for as often as it shows up as a plot point in our TV dramas or trashy romance novels, we don’t spend a lot of time thinking about why people do it. So WHY do they do it, indeed?
LIAR, LIAR, PANTS ON FIRE!
There’s one difference that might explain why even though women cheat, it doesn’t happen as often. Boys are taught from a young age that getting away with lying is easy, while girls grow up terrified of getting in trouble.
KITTENS DRESSED AS LIONS
There’s a lot of pressure on men to act tough, even when deep down they’re feeling vulnerable. This means when they’re feeling insecure, they find it easier to cheat than open up to their partners.
When you’re in a difficult situation, your brain will do anything to rationalize it. When guys are in the middle of an affair, their brain is feeding them lies, telling them as long as no-one finds out they’re not doing anything wrong!
SPICE UP YOUR LIFE
Sometimes, cheating is just due to boredom. The secrecy and rule-breaking involved in hiring escorts or having flings gives them the excitement they desperately crave.
TRAGIC BACKSTORY UNLOCKED!
People forget that men go through abusive relationships too, and that fear can make them scared to commit. Sometimes, repeating toxic patterns is easier than facing up to the real issues – so instead of finding a therapist, they find another woman.
GIMME, GIMME, GIMME!
Most guys are kind and understanding when things get rough, but some men just want it all. If a partner is going through something that makes them sexually unavailable, they may feel entitled to get their fix elsewhere.
JUST CAN’T QUIT
Sex addiction is real, and just as dangerous as being unable to quit drugs or drinking. If a partner is addicted to sex, it doesn’t matter how much they love their partner, they might not be able to stop themselves from straying.
NO MORE SURPRISES
Long term relationships can lead to a lot of great things: emotional intimacy, friendship and deep love. However, not all men want that, and they may get tempted once that first fiery passion begins to fade.
READ IT AND WEEP
You might think breaking up over text is bad, but some guys don’t even have the guts to do that. Instead, they cheat and deliberately get caught, making you end the relationship so that they don’t have to.
LONELY AND ALONE
Lots of men lose their friends as they get older, so the pressure on the partner to provide all the happiness in the relationship only grows. When this fails (as it always does) men may go out looking for happiness, and find something else instead.