When we start a new relationship, we bring out our most vulnerable self. We show ourselves as we truly are and give ourselves out to love completely. Amidst this cloud of affection and infatuation, we might develop unhealthy habits that can jeopardize our relationship’s foundation. Discover some of the worst kinks that can slowly be killing your relationship for good.
You’ve probably heard the whole life’s-a-journey metaphor a million times, but never really did stop and think how important it is. Don’t rush things and enjoy every step of the way. Avoid wanting to move to the next milestone because you will not fully appreciate what came before.
THEY SEE ME SCROLLING
We all want to go to bed to our phones to scroll through the day, but try not to make this a habit. Instead, check your phones after dinner and go to bed to your partner: have a little before-bed chat, cuddle, and discuss your plans for the next day.
WORK. WORK. WORK.
Stop thinking there might be someone better for you out there or that you are missing out. The perfect relationship does not exist, but you can build something pretty close. Picture what you want, work for it together and stay away from negative thoughts.
JUMP INTO CONFUSIONS
Stop worrying in advance about potential problems you might face in the relationship. Sure, one of you could die young or fall for someone else, but is there really a point in worrying about something that hasn’t happened yet—and probably never will? We don’t think so either.
NOT EVERYTHING THAT SHINES IS LOVE
Social media can trick you into believing those picture-perfect posts your friends share with their partners mean their relationship is perfect. Most people don’t air out their private problems, so you can’t really let social media set a standard for you to compare your relationship to.
GET PAST YOUR PAST
Don’t let your past govern your present relationship. You’re no longer dating your ex, and you’ve changed a lot, too. Learn from your past mistakes so you don’t make your new partner pay for things that have hurt you in previous relationships.
PICK YOUR BATTLES
Stop fighting over the remote or about which side of the bed belongs to whom. It’s OK to talk about everything you feel with your partner, but you shouldn’t pick a fight over random, insignificant problems that might arise.
All relationships face real issues and not talking about them will only increase your frustration. Take the time to discuss what you feel might hurt your relationship and prevent it from escalating.
LET’S AGREE TO DISAGREE
You don’t have to agree on everything; in fact, it’s healthy if you don’t because that means you don’t follow your partner blindly. Don’t feel frustrated about your partner’s opinions: if they don’t match yours, have empathy and try to understand their POV.
WHAT YOU GIVE IS WHAT YOU GET
It takes two to tango. If you want more romance on your relationship, do something about it. Want to spend more time together? Dedicate more quality time to them yourself. If you’re with the right person, whatever you give will come back to you.