Growing up can be tough. There are a lot of obstacles along the way that will hurt like hell, but will ultimately make you stronger. Then again, there are some hurdles you wish you could have avoided if you’d known of the consequences they would bring in advance. So here are ten things you probably wish you could tell your younger yourself and save years of harmful thoughts, crazy ideas, and stressful relationships.
1. LIFE IS ACTUALLY GOOD MOST OF THE TIME
Okay, so there are some obstacles that can make you doubt whether life is actually good. In fact, most people will tell you that life sucks, but they’re wrong. You only get one life, and most of the time, it’s actually pretty good. And when it’s not, have some faith in the knowledge that it will get better eventually. You’re alive! Make the best of it!
2. YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT, SO DON’T BE A DOUCHE
You might not always get along with them. In fact, you might wind up arguing with them more than you spend time laughing and hugging. But in the end, your mom and dad love you very much. So cut them some slack when they get a little too overbearing and difficult.
3. IT’S OKAY TO SAY NO TO SOMEONE
It doesn’t matter if it’s your boss, a family member, or your best friend. If something doesn’t feel right, trust your gut feeling and just say no. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t listen to their proposal or thank them for considering you, but give yourself permission to make your own choices.
4. TELL THE PEOPLE YOU KNOW THAT YOU LOVE THEM
You’re always going to lose friends and family either by choice or because life just happens. So don’t be shy about telling the people that are in your life that you love them and let go of petty conflicts that will wind up poisoning your soul. Remember that our time on this Earth is finite. So spend more time loving and less time hating.
5. IF YOU’RE SHY, DO YOUR BEST TO OVERCOME IT
It’s tough to put yourself out there, we know. But when you put a little extra effort into meeting new people, a gateway of cultural, ethnic, scientific, and religious influence opens right up. And you can learn from this and grow. In the end you’ll find that getting to know new people is the ultimate gift. Besides, you might find your life partner or a friend for life among all those scary group of people.
6. TRY TO LIVE YOUR LIFE IN BALANCE
All work and no play makes for a dull boy or girl. But doing nothing can be just as detrimental. So try to balance a healthy living by exercising, eating well, resting and having a little fun. You’ll find that this won’t just create a physical balance, but an emotional one as well and your older self will so thank you for it.
7. ACCEPT YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE
One of the most important things you wish you knew in your 20s … that being you is already good enough. You’re already beautiful, young, and often times, healthy. If not, being healthy, balanced, and happy are the only goals you should be focusing on. Nothing else matters. Your height, those extra 5 pounds, the length of your hair, your less-than-perfect nose, or that unique scar on your face. Guess what? Nobody’s perfect and best of all, you don’t have to be anything other than yourself.
8. THINGS ARE GOING TO CHANGE, ACCEPT IT
It’s life, not a hayride, but you are on a magnificent journey. So prepare yourself because things are going to change, and some of these changes will be shocking, tragic and traumatic, while others will be life-altering, but in a good way, and that’s a good thing to remember. You’re embarking on this amazing journey of your life so embrace, experience and enjoy every step.
9. AVOID PEOPLE WHO ARE CLOSED MINDED
Close minded people tend to be negative, which can be a total downer. In fact, some people can be downright emotionally harmful. So don’t just try to rid these people from your life… do it! Resist the pull they have to drag you down into their emotional black hole. No matter how hard you try and get them to see a more positive point of view, you’ll fail. So move on.
10. DON’T TURN ON FRIENDS WHO CALL YOU OUT ON YOUR B.S.
That friend of yours who’s always there to support you and listen to you, might get royally pissed at you when try to play the victim in your own life. They might even call you out when you allow yourself to embrace a toxic and abusive situation. But even though this might upset you, always remember that they’re trying to empower you to grow, and not hurt you. So don’t push them away.